(*Disclaimer – This may, in fact, seem like a moan, when it is actually a pro-happiness comment! Or something)
Do you know people who moan? Or rather, people who always moan? I do. People who seem more content with whinging about things rather than seeing positives. I know some people who seem to take pleasure in not being happy. I don’t understand this. Life’s too short (‘to stuff a mushroom’ as my mother would say – I’m sure that makes sense to someone out there). We all get down sometimes, have a case of the Blues, or the Mean Reds. But we carry on and get over it. Why spend your limited time here being miserable?
A couple of people I know seem to manage to make every conversation about themselves. I’m sure you know the type. You sneeze; they say ‘Don’t come near me! I’ve only just got over a life-threatening bout of pneumonia!’ . It’s always in the negative. Something bad has happened, and it’s always happened to them first, and worse.
As Newton Faulkner said, ‘People should smile more’. I wholeheartedly agree. I have a theory that people are less happy when it rains, not because it’s wet, but because everyone’s faces are screwed up against the rain, thus making them look miserable. When people say ‘It’s miserable outside’, that’s not the weather they’re talking about, it’s people’s faces. I make an effort to smile more when it’s raining. I’m sure people, deep down, don’t mind getting a bit wet. You’ll dry.
It’s all about perception (See number 7 on this list, which is a cracking blog, by the way). If you think something’s going to be rubbish, it invariably will be. If you try to see positives, then you should be able to get something out of most situations.
I first heard this at a Jools Holland concert a few years ago (I have no idea who said/sang it originally). It makes sense to me:
Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think.
Enjoy yourself, while you’re still in the pink.
The years go by as quickly as a wink.
Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think.