30 Things I’ve learnt – Part XIX

The blues are because you’re getting fat and maybe it’s been raining too long, you’re just sad that’s all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you’re afraid and you don’t know what you’re afraid of. Do you ever get that feeling? Holly Golightly, Breakfast At Tiffany’s.

It’s ok to be sad sometimes

Whether it’s the Blues, the Mean Reds, or that horrible listless feeling of ennui deep down, we all get sad. Often there is a specific reason, but sometimes there isn’t.

This is normal. It is ok.

I’m no expert in these matters, but sometimes you just have to sit them out. They’ll come and go, and if you try and force the issue, try to make yourself ‘happy’, you might just make yourself feel worse for not succeeding in doing so. But you know that they will go.

Of course, I’m only referring to those temporary occurrences. If you start to feel this way for longer periods of time then there are plenty of places to help.

Somewhere with advice:
Mind

Someone to talk to:
The Samaritans

Of course, there are plenty of other resources out there to help.

There’s also The Campaign Against Living Miserably, which is aimed more at young men, but is a great site. Sometimes it’s difficult to remember nowadays whether we men are supposed to be macho and suppress our feelings, be protective and strong, or be a ‘New Man’ and let them out at any opportunity. Or some confusing combination of them all. Which is where a lot of us fall.

Sometimes it’s difficult to remember that everyone has these moments. But there’s help out there. And there are others just like us all.

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